For the first time I can remember since I entered this lifestyle, I find myself without any submissives or any under consideration. A few months ago, I'd pretty much quit pursuing anything new unless it fell into my lap. I was truly happy with my (former) sub. The few that I'd been talking to since have been released or have disappeared/flaked, as subby boys tend to do.
That leaves me virtually unencumbered. Yes, there's a boy I've been talking about playing with and chewtoy continues to remain an option for NSA play that I haven't taken advantage of for months. And I still play online occasionally with cumboy. However, none of them are relationship material or even candidates for the type of D/s relationship I've been seeking.
Oh and there is a non-sub I've been seeing too. I adore him but he's not long term relationship material either. And of course Missy, a gorgeous bisexual woman I see some who has grown to be a good friend.
Yeah go ahead and laugh but it seems like my life is very simple right now. At least in regards to relationships. Or maybe it seems that way because none of those in my life are potential subs.
So it seems like a great time to take a bit of a break.
Although I'm not withdrawing from the lifestyle, I'm not actively seeking anything new. So I just changed my profile on collarme to add an intro that says:
I'm typically looking for an intelligent, attractive submissive man who is Dominant in his vanilla life - someone single and ready for something that might evolve into something serious. However, at this time, I'm taking a bit of a break. I'm not opposed to meeting exceptional potential submissives, but I'm not currently actively seeking any.
I sent this to a dear friend of mine, so proud that I'd take such a major step, and he said, "Oh, sweets -- that's catnip." I laughed and he added, "Trust the dom-in-life sub-in-sex male on this. Catnip."
This sabbatical doesn't mean I'll stop writing. I have a backlog of entries to finish and post. So don't remove me from your blog roll. I'm not going anywhere.
And if my friend is correct, though it is certainly not my intent, the catnip will bring me plenty of blogworthy material to write about.