Sunday, June 28, 2009

Tying up your BFFs on a Sunday afternoon

My two BFFs are both beautiful and talented in so many different ways, I can't possible describe them in one blog. They are also open minded and for someone as kinky as I, that's a very good thing.

When Goddess Selena mentioned the NawaYoi Rope Bondage Class and Rope Social, I knew immediately that this was something I wanted to attend. I also mentioned it in passing to one of my BFFs and was somewhat surprised that she also wanted to attend. Then our other BFF jumped onboard and suddenly I was attending a BDSM event with my two vanilla BFFs.

There was some discussion about who wanted to tie up and who wanted to be tied up. They both quickly decided to bottom and I had great fun tying up both of them.

During the social, there were a few little competitions. Thanks my braided wrist to ankle cuffs and the flexibility of one of my BFFs, I was able to execute a hogtie in a matter of seconds and won a cane and some lube - woo hoo! In another challenge, I had to use rope to secure a large dildo (with balls) to her knee winning a rather large dilo (watch out boys!). And my other BFF's soft curves were accentuated most deliciously by the rope as I tied her hands in various positions using a harness as the main securing point.

No, it wasn't nearly as erotic as tying up a boy. I mean, they are my BFFs after all! But being able to practice on them was wonderful. I felt zero pressure to perform and zero discomfort at having to being in rather intimately close proximity. I knew they would give me honest feedback and clearly from the look of delight on their faces, they actually enjoyed being tied up. One of them was particularly fascinated with the imprints the rope left on her skin.

It fun for me to have them step into my little world for an afternoon. Grant it, it's a world that is still very new to me, but it was still nice to be able to share it with them.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Cumboy's icing on the cake

Earlier this week I had cumboy scouring the web for cocks that meet my approval. Once he found one, I would had cumboy stroke his cock up until just before ejaculation while looking at the pic and talking out loud to the cock's owner saying all kinds of naughty things about wanting to suck his cock like a whore and have the guy cum all over his face, etc. I had him do this over and over again. If you follow me on twitter, you probably saw my tweets about it.

Cumboy was hard and dripping from the humiliation of looking for cock. To quote cumboy, "This is certainly humiliating but my hard cock does not lie."

Having to edge while pleading with the imaginary cock owner was the icing on the cake.

Well actually there wasn't any icing until today because I didn't let him cum until today. ;)

Today cumboy completed the final phase of the assignment. He was to find another worthy cock on Craigslist, print out a picture of the cock, masturbate on his knees WHILE talking out loud to the cock's owner, cum on the photo of the cock, take a picture of his cum all over the photo of the cock, then email the cock's owner and tell him what he'd done and why.

To the right you'll see the photo of the cock I chose along with the picture cumboy took after he got his nasty slut goo all over the print out of the photo. This is what he sent to the cock's owner along with the message below:
Hello Sir,

My name is cumboy and i am Mistress Lilyana's submissive slut. I want to explain to you why i sent you the photo i have attached. Mistress had asked to find a delicious cock to masturbate to while i talked out loud like a little cocksucker. I told your cock how much i liked to suck it and how much i wanted it to cum in my mouth and on my face like a whore would. She then thought it was only fair that i send the photo to the cocks owner.

I hope this flatters you,

And yes, of course I made cumboy lick his cum off the photo. :)

Monday, June 22, 2009

Boys in panties

I love boys in panties. Yet I'm not attracted to cross dressers.

Let me explain.

I don't have an issue with cross dressers. Hey, whatever gets you off, I'm ok with, as long as no one else gets hurt. Well, at least not get hurt in a way that they don't enjoy. ;)

Personally, I like men to look like men. The androgenous look isn't my thing.

However, I do enjoy a hot manly man wearing panties for me for a few reasons:

1) The contrast between the hard masculinity and soft feminine panties amuses me.
2) The fact that a man would humiliate himself for my amusement by wearing panties turns me on.
3) An erection just looks damn funny in pretty panties.
4) The fact that a man can get an erection just from wearing panties from me amuses me.

One morning last week, cumboy was headed out to do something manly - take care of car maintenance issues. Inspiration struck and I decided he should do so while wearing panties.

Cumboy is your all American guy. Even in his 30's, he still plays basketball, volleyball and golf regularly. In his professional life, he's a manager. He's very much the alpha male who enjoys drinking beer with the guys and grilling man food. Yet he's very much the submissive male behind closed doors.

I know that cumboy's threshold for erotic humiliation is fairly low. It's fairly easy to make him blush. I knew that this little panty assignment would give him an erection at the very least.

His excitement was evident in the picture he sent me just after slipping on his very first pair. His pronounced erection luridly pushed out the front of his red striped panties.

Cumboy later reported that wearing panties was very humiliating and it made him feel very submissive. Mmmm. Mission accomplished!

My pet wears panties for me regularly when we web cam. He's a triathlete who works out daily and keeps his body in perfect shape. And I have to tell you, even in pink sheer thongs, he is still a very delicious man.

The first few times my pet wore panties for me, his hands trembled with nervousness, yet his cock was hard and dripping.

Hard and dripping is how I like my cocks. If I can achieve this AND be amused, just from having my boys wear panties, I'm pretty sure there is more panty wearing in all their futures.

Monday, June 15, 2009

Searching for the one perfectly kinky boy

I love all my boys. I do. I have lots of fun playing with them all.

But what I really want, what I really crave, is just one that I can see regularly.

One perfectly kinky boy that looks hot on his knees, tied up with black rope or in jeans and a T-shirt across the booth from me eating pizza.

One that's maybe a little mouthy in our vanilla life, but in a fun way. One that submits silently and speaks only when spoken. One whose moans and whimpers make me wet.

One who is intelligent enough to at least keep up, preferably one who challenges me. One who grovels eloquently behind closed doors.

I suppose this is the challenge that unattached men and women everywhere face - finding someone who meets all of their criteria. But as a Dominant, I can't help but think that things are so much harder, perhaps twice as hard, because there are so many criteria. Twice as many perhaps?


Oh well. Perhaps I could settle for just two perfectly kinky boys. ;)

Sunday, June 7, 2009

Submissive Positions

About a week ago in my favorite FetLife group, Humiliation Nation, I commented on a thread called "How do you humiliate your slave." The OP is an over the phone Dominatrix looking for ideas on humiliation so I responded with some very basic activities including the following:
I have a series of positions, some based on traditional slave positions and commands, that I make a sub memorize. Then I give them the commands and make them assume the positions quickly. If they don't do it right, they are punished. Some of the positions are designed to feminize and are super amusing for me. Message me directly with your email address and I can send them to you if you'd like.
Because I've had quite a few requests for these, I've decided to post them here.

Submissive Positions

The following positions are based on the traditional slave positions used in the BDSM community with a couple of additional positions I particularly enjoy. You should commit these to memory, practice them and be prepared to assume any of these positions upon demand.


INSPECT-- Stand at attention, legs spread a shoulder width apart, hands clasped behind your head, right over left, back slightly arched to accentuates the chest and genitals. Eyes should be lowered with your chin up. In this position you should be fully accessible so that any part may be inspected at close range or touched.

  • Voice Command--Inspect

  • Hand Signal--Clap


PRESENT -- Bend over, spread the cheeks of your ass with your hands exposing your anus to me.

  • Voice Command--Present

  • Hand Signal--Turning motion with fist


INSTRUCT-- Kneel, knees spread, sitting back on your heels, left wrist grasped by right wrist. Eyes should be on me with your chin up.

  • Voice Command--Instruct

  • Hand Signal--Right hand taps right ear twice


WAIT -- Stand, hands behind your back, left wrist grasped by right wrist. Eyes should be lowered with your chin up.

  • Voice Command--Wait

  • Hand Signal--Elbow slightly bent; hand bent back sharply at wrist

WAIT KNEEL -- Kneel, knees spread, sitting back on your heels, left wrist grasped by right wrist. Eyes should be lowered with your chin up.

  • Voice Command--Wait Kneel

  • Hand Signal--Elbow slightly bent; hand bent back sharply at wrist, then a pointing down


CORPORAL-- First assume the WAIT position, though with arms crossed in front. Then lean forward and grabs your ankles bringing your head as close to knees as possible and offering back and buttocks to me.

  • Voice Command--Assume the position.

  • Hand Signal--None

Pretty Feet

PRETTY FEET—Standing with your right leg positioned at 2:00, place the heel of your left foot in the inside arch of the right foot with your knee slightly bent, pelvis forward, shoulders back and your left hand placed gracefully on your hip.

  • Voice Command—Pretty Feet

  • Hand Signal--None

Tippy Toes

TIPPY TOES -- Stand, shoulders back, balancing on the balls of your feet. Eyes should be lowered with your chin down.

  • Voice Command—Tippy Toes

  • Hand Signal--None

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

I <3 my naughty piercing

There are few things I love more than my naughty piercing.

For those of you who don't know, I have a vertical clit hood piercing. Basically, it's the same curved barbell used in belly button piercings pierced through the hood of my clit so that the jewelry lays on top of my clit all of the time.


Barely a year ago, I could pretty much only cum when I was on top. This was before I realized I was really Dominant, though it should have been a clue. Having things my way, at my speed, in just the position I like them has always been my preference.

But I digress.

Anyway, about a year ago I was seeing a delicious woman, a professional photographer. One evening she was talking about how she's always wanted to do a macro photography book about clits. A coffee table book with page and after page of clits.


I told her I thought is was a great idea and she asked me if I'd let her shoot mine. I'm VERY conservative with pictures of my naughty bits so she was surprised when I agreed.

This made reminded me of my long time interest in having my hoo hoo pierced.

“Yeah, I've always wanted to have my clit pierced.”

Her jaw almost hit the floor.

If you know Mistress Lilyana, all you know is naughtiness. But Lilyana, just plain old Lilyana, she's a conservative woman who drives an SUV and collects bunnies. Yes, bunnies, figurines and things, not Playboy bunnies. And I wear sweater sets. If I had pearls, I'd probably wear them too.

So when Lilyana the sweater set wearer announced she'd like to get her clit pierced to her not so conservative bisexual lover, said lover was ready to take Lilyana and have her pierced that evening.

Hey, we live in Vegas. You can get pierced at any hour.

A few days later, we both had the hoods of our clits pierced at a place appropriately called Precious Slut. A few days after, our piercings were mostly healed and we were test driving them.


Having the hood of my clit pierced was undoubtedly one of the best decisions I have ever made. It made a HUGE impact on how orgasmic I am. HUGE. Before my piercing, I MIGHT have cum without being on top a half dozen times. And I was tickled if I could cum even once during sex. Now cumming 10 times in one session is EASY (as long as may partner knows what they are doing). 20 times is not unattainable. Multiples used to be something I thought impossible but are now frequent for me. Hell, even masturbation is WAY easier now. It makes me feel SOOOO naughty just having it.

Ladies – Do yourself a favor and consider having your clit hoods pierced. It wasn't terribly painful to have done because the skin pierced is very thin, it heals very quickly (2 weeks max) and it makes you more orgasmic, or at least it did me! If you have any questions, check out or email me.

Monday, June 1, 2009

I don't need a step by step guide on taking you like a little whore

I often enjoy hearing the fantasies of male submissives. And sometimes they seem to be very similar to my own ideas.

But when it comes right down to it, it's ALWAYS going to be my call on how a scene is going to go down.

If a male sub wants to get on my nerves, he can do it easily by being pushy with his own fantasies. "I want to be tied like this and blindfolded and you could say . . ." Blah blah blah that is what it translates into for me sometimes when I hear too many details.

It's enough just to tell me, "I want to be restrained and taken like a little whore." That, I can do. I don't need a step by step guide on how to do it.

And I can for damn sure make it even better than your fantasy.