I'm polyamorous. I'm a Domme. But I don't want MY sub submitting to another Domme while he's submitting to me.
Maybe that means I'm not poly. Maybe I'm just greedy.
I've previously considered and given permission to a sub to date others while we were together. It was permission with conditions, sure. I'm the Dominant and I have that right.
I believe that being poly means you're ok with your partners being involved with others. And I am. I've been involved with other people who are poly and I've also been involved with non-polys who were seeing others while we were together. And I was REALLY ok with it.
I just don't want someone who is submitting to me on a regular basis submitting to anyone else.
Is it a double standard? Yes. Because even though I've never had multiple serious subs at once, I often have more than one sub that I'm considering and/or playing with.
No, what's good for the Goose isn't good for the gander.
D/s is the difference. It's not just sex. It's not even sex and dating. It's a much more special connection.
There's an ownership element to D/s that throws my being poly all off kilter. There's a feeling of MINE I have with subs, even former subs, that I never had when I was monogamous, even when I was married.
And when I think of a sub of mine kneeling for another Domme, I feel a little sick. I believe that's something special he should only share with me. Date someone else, fuck someone else, but no, I'm not ok with you submitting to someone else.
I don't think that's wrong either. But then again, maybe I'm just greedy.