For those of you who may not know, edging is bringing someone up to the point they're ready to cum but not letting them orgasm. If you've been reading my blog a while, you know it's one of my favorite ways to exert control.
Edging a guy has become somewhat second nature to me, even when that guy is not submissive. I did it with 9 and I do it with my FMT. Both enjoyed it. Only my FMT admits it easily though. It's probably because he's not all wound up in the Dom mind set.
My FMT is what I call pseudo vanilla. He's kinky by vanilla standards but not lifestyle D/s. That's not to say he doesn't understand the lifestyle though. He had a pretty fair grasp on the subject before we met almost two years ago and has picked up a few things just from being around me.
He "gets it" but enjoys joking like he does not. He tries, on occasion, to give me a taste of what I do to subs. "I want you to feel what it is that you do your poor subs." Yes, he considers himself some kind of advocate for all male subs as if it's his job to right all the wrongs against them. And it never fails to get a rise out of me. No one could ever say my FMT doesn't know precisely how to push my buttons.
Earlier this week we were enjoying the benefits of our friends with benefits relationship when he suddenly switched gears on me. This man who seems to live to see me orgasm suddenly stopped mid thrust just as I was about to cum.
Right at the edge.
"What the fuck?!?!"
"What?" he smiled as he started fucking me again.
"You just ..." I lost my train of thought as my orgasm immediately began to build again. I heard him moan a little and knew it was in response to me tightening around him. I was ready to cum.
And then he stopped.
"Oh my God. Really??? Seriously??" I playfully smacked his face.
"Really?? Really??" he mimicked, then snickered.
"You can't do that."
"You can't just stop like that?"
"You can't just stop fucking me like that!!"
He laughed. "Oh can't I? Why not?"
"Because you can't!!"
"Oh yeah? Isn't that what you call edging? Hmmm? Yeah?"
"Yes but ..."
"See? See what it's like?"
"No, I don't like it!"
"Well, that's what it's like when you do it to guys! It's not very much fun, is it? IS IT?"
At this point I'm laughing. Here is this vanilla guy, the biggest proponent of edging I've seen from a guy who doesn't submit, trying to "teach me a lesson" about how terrible edging is.
Here's the thing. I really did hate it.
Now like any woman, I enjoy a certain amount of teasing, during foreplay especially.
Teasing, yes. Edging, no.
Hell fucking no.